216 // What Resentment Reveals & Understanding Envy
We all know that we don’t love feeling jealous, but do we know the difference between jealous and envy? When we feel them, where do we go from there? What about when we feel resentful of someone? Where does this emotion come from and who is responsible for it? In this episode, we deep dive into these emotions using Brene Brown’s work as a guideline. Resentment is in the envy family, along with a host of other unpleasant emotions. We give some ideas on how to process these difficult feelings.
Related episodes:
How to Process Jealousy and Resist the Gaping Pit of Comparison
Books and links we mentioned:
Atlas of the Heart // Brené Brown
Decide Already by Hidden Brain
Time Stamps
10:54 - Our language shapes our world,
13:20 - Comparison isn’t inherently bad, it’s a natural part of being human
18:00 - Stay in your lane and your journey
19:54 - Humans are happier if they are forced to commit to a decision
26:15 - Feeling content with fashion
32:30 - Definition of Jealousy vs. Envy
34:09 - Malicious envy vs. just plain envy
38:45 - Resentment is a part of the envy family
42:00 - What do I need that I’m afraid to ask for?
43:00 - Schadenfreude & Freudenfreude
45:20 - Cultivating flame-keepers
50:32 - “Rejoice in the success of others”
52:30 - Develop Freudenfreude using “Shoy” and “Bragitude”
54:52 - Social media can be a detriment for our ability feel freudenfreude