231// Pt 2 Be the Calm Your Kids Need, Talking Less and Reducing Anger // Michaeleen Doucleff Hunter Gather Parent
Some parenting wisdom feels true to our core; that is how we felt when we read much of the wisdom from Hunter Gather Parent by Michaleen Doucleff. Today we are sharing our favorite nuggets from the book pertaining to disciplining our kids. The advice is less prescriptive and more in line with what we know to be true as parents and humans. Our children are learning. Our role is to see them with love and respect and teach them the ways of their family tribe. We tackle how to direct our kids with less force, create cooperation, and reduce the amount of anger in our homes.
Find part one of our conversation here -
Books, Quotes, & Links Mentioned
Understanding Praise and How We Can Use It to Give Our Kids Confidence Instead of Insecurity
“When little people are overwhelmed by big emotions, it's our job to share our calm, not join their chaos.”― L.R. Knost
Time Stamps
7:15 - Premise of Hunter, Gather, Parent
9:50 - 100 commands vs. 3 commands per hour
12:00 - A request is giving our kids the chance to obey or rebel
14:30 - Master the facial expressions and gestures
15:11 - Ask 3 times calmly
18:59 - Parent is the pole analogy
22:11 - Don’t talk for your kids
25:17 - At intersecting points, redirect your kids to the family
27:58 - Misbehavior is a call for responsibility & freedom
29:00 - Our work is their play
32:15 - We can infuse connection into our daily chores
35:35 - Never in anger
39:19 - Take a breath & say nothing when feeling angry
41:10 - Yelling trains our kids not to listen
43:15 - When we respond with kindness & quiet, we teach them to do the same
48:13 - How we see our kids is changes how we act towards them